An interesting discussion has emerged in the popular Reddit thread called “Am I the Asshole?” In the post, a male employee shares a story about his company’s room sharing policy which has male colleagues sharing a hotel room together while female colleagues are allowed to stay in separate hotels. Then it gets interesting.
For those unfamiliar, the subreddit “Am I the Asshole” is a wildly popular section of Reddit (the “Front Door to the Internet”) which allows people to anonymously ask questions about life situations to help determine who’s the bigger “asshole.” This subreddit boasts 2.3 million followers and states that they are:
“A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that’s been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you’re right, or you’re the asshole. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ “Most Controversial” at /r/AITAFiltered!https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/
If you ever got some time on your hands it can be an interesting rabbit hole to dive into and a sometimes dark one.
The post in question was shared recently and has gained (at the time of this writing anyway) 6.2k upvotes and a number of awards (which are important on Reddit). The submitter shares a story that describes what he deems as an unfair and sexist business travel policy by his company.
I’ll let you read the post for yourself:
While we are certainly not labor attorneys here, at first glance it seems like the company’s travel policy unfairly targets men while treating women differently.
The comments on the thread (which are approaching 800) are all over the place:
- “It only negatively affects you men, so you should’ve kept quiet.” Definition of sexist behavior, right there.”
- “Well no, what she’s saying is that they are worse off for no benefit to anyone else, since her coworkers are still sharing. It’s leveling down. You didn’t get a pay raise, you just made sure I get a pay cut. However, she’s wrong cause that’s not actually what happened here. OP wasn’t complaining about the two women having a benefit, he just tried to request the same benefit for himself. He took his shot, it didn’t work, but fair is fair.”
- “WTF? I work in market research and our people travel constantly. There’s absolutely NO WAY anyone would EVER be told they had to share a room. That’s such a massive massive HR violation it’s scary. The potential for lawsuit is so high in those cases I cannot believe that would be the case. NTA by the way.”
- “I work at a hotel. When we have construction crews or even just large crews in general they book two men per double queen. It’s just a way for the company to save money, even though we offer discounts for large crews. However with Covid we’ve noticed that every individual is being set in a standard king which they are all very happy about.”
- “As an FYI – I used to book hotel stays for government employees, and I was actually reprimanded for joking about booking a shared room, not even kidding. The company you work for is incredibly short sighted, because once a sexual assault allegation is made thanks to sharing a room, they will pay far more than they saved by booking shared rooms. I would honestly refuse to share a room for a business related reason – it’s all a tax write off anyways, and if your company can’t afford double rooms, they can’t afford to send two people.”
- “NTA. Your company sucks, adults should not be sharing room on work trips, period, it’s ridiculous. Also, that she wants to Skype is completely irrelevant.”
That’s just a few of the “clean” ones…there’s a lot comments that are all over the place.
One thing is clear, the company is pretty darn stingy with it’s travel budgets. I’ve seen this before in companies, but it’s seems (anecdotally anyway, to me, who’s in the tech industry, mind you) that its less common these days and when it pops up it’s almost always is with a smaller company or blue collar field (again anecdotally).
That said, I’ve had to share a room with a male colleague before and it was kinda crappy. My company had a really tough sales year a while back and they decided to bunk all of the conference attendees together, by gender. It was a disaster. HR complaints out the wazoo and lots of bitching and moaning. They never did it again and even added a section to the company policy stating it was explicitly NOT allowed.
How about y’all? Have you seen any recent instances of this sort of policy? What do you think about the policy or this situation? Is this guy an A$$Hole for complaining? Drop us a comment below!
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